“You have to hurt in order to know. Fall in order to grow. Lose in order to gain. Because most of life’s lessons are learned in pain.”
– J. Cole
The way you perceive the above quote is simply up to you. I know you’re probably trying to figure out where I’m headed with this, but my hope is that you can grasp on to the message that I convey to you, in hopes that it will spark a bit of life in you. This quote is just a constant reminder, to allow pain to teach me lessons and to make room for growth.
I will break this down for you, as simple as I know how to.
According to Merriam-Webster, the definitions of the word “pain”, involves a mental, emotional, or physical suffering. The good thing about this life, is that we go through experiences, whether good or bad, that allows us to learn. Don’t get me wrong, I know damn sure we aren’t thinking about the good things that we can learn from these painful experiences, but if you look deeper than what’s on the surface, pain makes us who we are.
The first thought that comes to mind when I think of pain, is when I started to learn how to ride a bike. Of course, it took a couple times to learn how to keep balance, but once my dad finally let go of the bike, I felt like a bird who just earned its wings. I remember falling countless times, but I kept going despite the pain I endured from scraping my elbows and knees. Now, thinking back on this memory, what if I gave up after the first fall? I would have probably never mustered up enough courage and faith to try again. The pain that I endured was well worth it, I learned how to ride a bike.
No matter how much we try to avoid pain, sorry to break it to you; but it’s just a part of life. What we do with that pain, is where growth takes place. We become a new person when we endure these painful lessons and allow ourselves to use them as a growing mechanism. So, here’s my advice to you, if you’re going through a painful patch right now in life, look at the bright side of the story, lessons learned. Meaning to not get so caught up in the fear of having this pain, that we allow ourselves to become a slave to fear and pain; but to evolve with the lessons you’ve learned. Become a new you. Become a better person.
No pain. No gain.